DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE booked a fortnight away in the sun for just me and my boyfriend, but I’ve been putting off breaking the news to my mum.
She dotes on my brother and spoils him like mad. He’s almost 19 and a student at uni. She does everything for him and can’t see what a monster he is.
He wants things all his own way and if that doesn’t happen, the tantrums begin. My mum and dad still like to go on holiday as a family and for years we have all gone to Lanzarote or Tenerife.
Mostly our time there is spoilt by my brother, who sulks and makes everyone tense if things don’t go his way. I’m 21 now and I’ve decided we’ll go it alone, so we’ll miss all the dramas and sulks.
I know Mum will go mad and say my brother is missing out on family time.
DEIDRE SAYS: Let her say what she likes but remember that actions speak louder than words.
Stick to your guns and your mother will see you are an adult who is able to make her own plans – and those plans don’t include all your brother’s sulks.
It might give her the hint that she Is really not helping her son by indulging his tantrums and whims.
Tell her she will get good advice if she contacts Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222).
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